Do you ever have a confidence wobble up and start to doubt and question your ability in all sorts of things? I have been doing this about writing this blog as I ask myself why I am doing it, with thoughts of doubt, criticism, unrealistic expectations and seeking approval from others (and not getting it!)
I have been noticing this confidence wobble up in others too with doubts around my ability to do a job, write an essay, and keep up with job demands. I am taking this as a sure sign I need to remind myself of a few helpful things related to where my confidence and happiness comes from. I have written many blogs with such themes knitted into them. I find it so helpful to remind myself through these blogs and maybe you do too.
Low self confidence and pride are two sides of the same coin. They both involve concern about myself! Low self confidence is when I see myself as lacking or less than others and pride is when I see myself as better than others, or as my mother would say 'too big for my boots!' So, given that both are untrue, unhelpful ways to think and certainly not happiness or confidence building, how do I balance things out here? One thing that really helps me is to remember
Both these intentions are about me! I find a more helpful way to rethink is 'I am doing my best to write this blog to be better for others, to remind myself and share what has been extremely helpful for me and may be of use to others. This other orientated pivot where I ask myself 'what is best for others?' always helps me to get over pride and low self esteem - both of which as I said are about me! So the answer - write this blog!
For me there are two key component that are necessary for my happiness and confidence. They are simply kindness and gratitude. Kindness to myself and of course to others too, and gratitude for myself, my wonderful life and all those in it. When I forget kindness and gratitude I find myself in an unhappy place with a confidence wobble up.
So, what are some ways to be kind and grateful to myself and others too.? What things promote my confidence and happiness in order for me to be better for others and more available to them, because I am not so caught up in worry about myself.
Remembering to be kind, by...
1. Letting Go of Worry About Myself
Have a great week. Thank you all
Kind Regards and Best Wishes