I have been reminded recently how toxic it is to my peace of mind to compare myself to others, as better or worse! As Theodore Roosevelt says "Comparison is the thief of joy'. Comparison not only robs us of joy, it also disturbs our peace of mind and erodes our self esteem and well being.
So how do I stop the unhelpful habit of comparing myself to others? By being Mindful of, or paying attention to, what is going on. As we said last week we all have this ability, we just need to learn how to use it well. We can improve the quality of the attention we bring to our self talk, connection with others and situations? Remembering that a quality of attention informed by kindness and respect is always helpful.
So how do I bring this kind, respectful attention to myself and others when I am tempted to compare myself to others. I find it helpful to question the truth of my judgemental and comparing thoughts and dust off more helpful replacement thoughts and responses to myself and others.
It is important to acknowledge that we are all different - we all have different shapes, sizes, talents, habits, and personality traits, BUT there is no need to use these differences as a way to judge ourselves or others and feel superior or inferior! It may be more helpful to.......
Our culture provides us with many ways to compare ourselves to others, especially through social media. Often people present their best on social media - we really do not know what is happening in other's lives - kindness and compassion for others and ourselves is always helpful. Resisting the temptation to compare can be tricky, but well worth the effort.
I often find myself in situations where I am tempted to compare myself in terms of my physical appearance, fitness, parenting skills and what my kids are up to, achievements, intellectual ability, and skills. Anything and everything really! I find it interesting to watch my mind around thoughts of comparison and that unhelpful habit I can have of ...
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