Ever feel a bit sad and sorry for yourself, when something goes wrong, or even for no knowable reason? I have been feeling a little this way lately, for no particular reason. Why it is tempting to give myself a hard time or to overindulge the feelings and feel sorry for myself, I have been thinking about more helpful ways to work with sadness.
Whether the sadness is deep or just a general melancholy or whether it relates to a major loss or even something that can't pinpoint there are some things we can do, that may be helpful. We are all different and some of these suggestions may or may not resonate with you. Whether they do or not, be mindful to remember to work with kindness and compassion for all, including yourself!
As we have said Mindfulness is word which has received lots of attention and hype. As I understand it, it simply means to pay attention to what is going on. Mindfulness is not a skill that we need to develop, it is a skill we already have, a skill we are all constantly using. So, we don't need to develop this ability but we do need to learn how to use it well.
Alan Wallace reminds us ".. if we find we are out of sorts, we can note that and not beat ourselves up, not judge ourselves". Instead, we can improve the quality of our attention we bring to our self talk, connection with others and situations? A quality of attention informed by kindness and respect.
So what might be helpful to be mindful of, or simply remember, when I have the 'sads and sorry' for myself.....
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