Do you ever feel a need to defend yourself or your position or cover up a mistake to 'save face'? I do when I forget to not take myself so seriously.
It really helps when I remember to not take myself so seriously when unwanted things happen or are said. When these things happen it is like a 'criticism', 'have a go' or 'embarrassed' button is pushed in me, and I often feel the need to defend myself and take myself way too seriously. It really helps when I can do as Halle Berry suggests 'Don't take yourself too seriously. Know when to laugh at yourself and find a way to laugh at obstacles that inevitably present themselves'.
Recently we were out to dinner and a friend shared this same helpful advice. Her partner is a playful, friendly character who is always ready to have a laugh. My friend has a very responsible management job and her partner was joking around about it. Instead of becoming defensive and assuming an intention to have a go, she instead joined in on the fun. Later she whispered these helpful words to me - 'He reminds me to not take myself too seriously. If I did my relationships and my job would be much harder and no fun.'
Balance is important here to prevent misunderstanding. Not taking oneself too seriously is not about...
And I have had plenty of amazing things go seemingly right too. Things like passing exams, getting the job I wanted, having a family and getting POM up and running. But, I don't want to get this out of balance either - again remembering to be better for others, rather than better than others and to not take myself too seriously really helps me with equanimity. It is important to enjoy our successes in being the best we can for others and equally important to rejoice in the success of others too.
You may want to have a play with taking yourself a little less seriously. I have found it fun to reframe embarrassment and negativity with a laugh.
Have a great week. Thank you all
Kind Regards and Best Wishes