Sometimes my reactions to what is happening is not in alignment with bringing my 'best self' to a situation. These are times when 'I feel out of sorts'. Recently I learned a helpful technique to check in with myself when I notice a reaction which is outside of the best I would like to offer! This useful tool came from Shadi during my participation in her Purpose Discovery and Strategy Accelerator course! This is a great course - you may want to check out the link here!
So what do we do when we feel 'out of sorts' and unable to respond in a way that is in our and others' best interests? Maybe we are involved in an unhelpful blame or victim game, ruminating on wrongs or negativity, complaining, bitching, or being unfriendly! Shadi advises when we are mindful of such 'out of sorts' behaviour we HALT and ask ourselves ......
I can remember having teenagers who would arrive home from school hungry and would be displaying all sorts of 'out of sorts' behaviour. As soon as some food was supplied things usually settled, with more peace and rationality returning. They were hungry and unable to bring their best selves home!
At times I can experience a low level irritation or underlying stress for no apparent reason. When I notice this a great panacea is to take some deep breaths, do some yoga, go for a walk, run or exercise or take a 5 minute shavasana (with my lavender eye pillow!)
Sometimes, again for no apparent reason, I can catch myself feeling a little low, lonely or isolated. Although, I must admit to being much happier in my own company these days I understand that balance is needed. So, when I detect this low level lonely feeling, I try to remember it is my little nudge to connect. I find it helpful to connect with myself first and then maybe connect with others, by ringing someone, writing a text, going for a walk and smiling at all I pass or letter or doing some kind deed for someone else.
This is an important one for me to notice, as I am certainly not able to offer my best self when I am feeling tired!
When I was being a teenage 'pain in the bottom', my mother used to say to me "Maree, you over tired". Not just tired but over tired! So making sure I take time to rest, get enough sleep or do a '5 minute shavasana pick me up' are all important to allow me to offer my best self!
So, the next time you are feeling a bit 'out of sorts' and maybe not in a position to offer your best self HALT and attend to some self maintenance. Do what is needed to allow yourself to be that more positive force in the world!
Sending you all peace, love and best wishes from Sri Lanka!
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