Another way to train our minds to be more in the present, which I learned from my Teachers Lama Marut and Cindy Lee is ‘It’s Like This Now!
It’s like this now!
This Lama Marutism has saved me lots of worry and protest about how I think things should be when clearly they are not that way. By realizing ‘It’s like this now’ we are bringing ourselves back into the present “now”! And almost always everything is perfectly ok in the present.
When something unwanted happens or when we don’t get what we want we can have understandably have the tendency to wish it was or was not the way it is. My mind can protest and create struggle and conflict wanting it to be different from how it is. For example, I can have cries of ‘you should not have said that to me, it shouldn’t be raining or they should have rung me’ when clearly, they have already said it, it is raining and they haven’t rung!
No amount of protesting or complaining about it or wishing it was different from how it is, is going to help. Although somehow, I think it is! The truth is all I am doing with my arguing with reality by complaining and protesting is ruining both my present and future peace of mind. So, what might be a more helpful response?
I find ‘it’s like this now’ is a very useful thing to say to myself to bring me int the present and to how things actually are!. When I accept that the situation ‘is like this now’, instead of the way I think it should or should not have been, I bring myself into the present where I can then tune into my wise self to ask ‘what is my wisest response, given that it is like this now? And as you might guess it is not to blame, criticise or protest, but rather to accept and respond wisely. So in our examples I could respond wisely by letting go of what has been said, enjoying the rain and bring understanding and forgiveness to my friend not ringing.
A similar helpful thing we might say to ourselves in situations like this is 'It is what it is'! This acceptance of the situation allows us to again in tune into our wise self for how best to respond.. Remembering also that worrying about something is never useful, if there is something to be done, do that and don't worry and if there is not anything we can do, do nothing and don't worry.
With love, appreciation and very best well wishes to us all