January is a great time to think about establishing some helpful new habits, but as we said every day can be New Years! So how do we prevent our January enthusiasm from waning?
In last weeks blog we looked at recognising things that may hinder realisation of our goals and resolutions. We explored the pitfalls of focusing on too many things at once and forgetting. So having decided on one thing - to establish a gratitude practice, and thinking about things to remember gratitude, I am ready to look at further ways to prevent obstacles getting in my way.
The next unhelpful habit (or friendly reminders) which may get in the way of establishing helpful new habits may include...
I need to convince myself that being grateful, for example is how I want to be and that it is possible for me to establish a gratitude practice. Our predisposition is not our future. Who we were in the past, an ungrateful person for example, does not need to define who we are in the future.
Instead of allowing that self critical task master to be in charge I will remember to power up that kind, encouraging friend who believes it is possible for me to make this change. As Pema Chodren says 'Never give up on yourself. Then you will never give up on others'.
Three steps which might help to power up that positive encouraging part of us to overcome self-judgement include...
As Kristin Neff succinctly says 'Instead, of mercilessly judging and criticising yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings - after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?'
morning gratitude practice saves the day again, literally!
As Mark Desvaux says 'Some people see the glass half full, others see the glass half empty. the enlightened are simply grateful to have a glass'.
A daily gratitude practice has many benefits to our happiness and peace of mind and is well worth working on. I encourage you to think of some helpful ways to remember to be grateful and to practice gratitude. Start with believing in yourself and that it is possible for you to be optimistic and practice gratitude. And watch for that negativity and worry and instead choose to be grateful for all that is going right. Make that first small change and record those things you are grateful for no matter how small. They are everywhere - we just need to be awake to notice! What a blessing it is to have gratitude spring to mind instead of negativity and resentment!
We will explore some more of the obstacles that may hinder establishing and maintaining resolutions or goals over the next few blogs.
Gratitude, Kind Regards and Best Wishes,