Do you ever get dissapointed with yourself when you make mistakes? I did this the other day when I had a texting mishap! I often set the high unrealistic expectations, of myself (and others too) of not making mistakes. When mishaps inevitable happen I can wind up feeling dissapointed and disapproving of myself and others too. This never helps me feel confident, happy or have peace of mind.
Somehow I can have the wacky idea 'I should not make mistakes'. Never making mistakes is not possible. Things go wrong!
It is also not possible for me to develop compassion or appreciation for myself or others if I am busy criticising and judging them or myself for inevitable shortfalls. As the Dalai Lama reminds us 'Love is the absence of judgment'. So letting go of judgment allows for love.
So, my texting mishap was when I pressed the send button on a message, only to realise 'OMGoodness, I've sent it to the wrong person'
The message was intended for my daughter, who is travelling overseas and I sent it to a Chinese friend, who in many ways is akin to my son, who is also travelling overseas. The message read...
'Sorry for messaging sweetheart but just to let you know I am working on the no news is good news principal, so keep having a wonderful time being where you are and please don't worry about us here. Of course we are here if you need us. You will always be in my heart and mine in yours. Much love M xx.
I pressed send and then realised what I had done! There was no taking it back, but did I need to? I went straight to 'how embarrassing, how could I be so stupid, I should have been more careful.....' Fortunately I remembered to STOP this self- critical, judgmental, thought train. I asked myself if this was true? No, it wasn't! So Instead of hopping on that thought train of worry, judgment and criticism I decided to...
So, instead of expecting never to make a mistake, I can drop the judgment and treat myself and others with kindness, be more encouraging and appreciative of the efforts we all make to be better for others. With this attitude, even when mishaps happen, I can relax and be happy. As Tony Robbins says 'Trade your expectations for appreciation and the world changes instantly.'
Have a great week. Thank you all
Kind Regards and Best Wishes