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Gratitude is a Super Power!

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I am grateful to be looking at gratitude yet again this blog!
Gratitude is an awesome superpower. I read recently that one of the most powerful statements you can make, feel or think is ‘thank you’. Thank you to others and yourself too.
 
It is so helpful to remember to be thankful to all those people in our lives who have been motherly, kind and caring toward us, including of course our own maternal mothers, to whom we owe so much, including our lives. Remembering to be thankful to friends, family and strangers too for the kindness they show us in all sorts of ways is powerful to promote our happiness and peace of mind. We'll talk more about gratitude for mothering kindness next blog, as it will be Mother's Day weekend. I'll be on board travelling from Canberra to Sydney!
 
It is also great to be thankful to others who give us the opportunity to be kind to them. This includes, friends, family, pets, strangers and of course our children or anyone we care for.

It's great to remember to tune into our wise selves to be kind and thankful to ourselves too. Seeing ourselves be a positive force in the world, being kind and grateful creates a happy perception. We can reinforce this goodness by being thankful to ourselves. We can be grateful to ourselves for doing our best to be a kind, positive force in the world. Remembering also to forgive ourselves and others for all those so called ‘mistakes’, more helpfully known as learning opportunities. 
 
The opportunities to extend kindness do not always come in the ways we expect and sometimes these kind acts are received without thanks. I find it helpful to thank myself, especially during those times like when I have spent a lot of time and effort doing something like making a family meal which is received with 'I don't like this!' Resting in my intention to have prepared a healthy meal and thanking myself helps to prevent resentment. A space I  have known very well. 

Sometimes extending kindness, especially as parents, can be in the form of a strong boundary like ‘please, don’t speak to me like that’, or ‘no, you can’t do that’. Such Kindness always has the intention to protect others from harm.

I can remember the need for such a strong kind boundary many years ago when I needed to enforce the ‘no sleeping with phone rule’ with my then thirteen-year-old. As I was saying goodnight to them, I discovered the phone under their bedclothes. I removed the phone and there was much subsequent protesting.  I needed to check in with my wise self to remember that my intention was to prevent harm and for them to get a good night’s sleep. I was then able to thank myself for being courageously kind, as the protests continued.  
 
More about gratitude and its awesome benefits next blog.
With love, appreciation and very best well wishes to us all 


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Better FOR Others - Daily 5 Minute Relax Shavasana

10/11/2018

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​Shavasana is the thing I love most about both yoga teaching and participation. Pictured above is todays yoga shavasana! I have been recently reminded I can gift myself a mini shavasana practice each and every day. This blog is all about this taking time for a daily '5 minute Relax Shavasana'

Last weeks blog, Better FOR Others - Relax  talked about ways we can improve the quality of attention we  bring to any situation so that we can be better FOR others. We explored ways to bring our 'better FOR others' self to a situation when we are agitated, stressed, or worried, or when we are feeling spaced out, dull or sleepy.  What about when we are feeling really out of sorts, edgy uptight, not ourselves? We'll explore that this blog
 
This third feeling I was going to discuss last blog is when we are feeling really out of sorts, edgy, uptight, not ourselves. Toward the end of writing the blog I was feeling that way myself! So instead of going on I decided to practice what I preach and I went and did a '5 Minute Relax Shavasana'! So let explore what is helpful when we are feeling .........

3.  Feeling really out of sorts, edgy uptight, not ourselves
Alan Wallace reminds us when we are feeling really out of sorts we should note that without judging, or beating ourselves up. He suggests that maybe this is not the best time to be interacting with others as we certainly are not in a position to offer our best selves. He recommends that we do ourselves and others a favour and take some time out to relax!
  • Go and lie down for a while -
  • I find what I call the '5 Minute Relax Shavasana' practice is excellent to do here.
As I have said before my yoga teacher Andrew recommends we do this practice each and every day for the rest of our lives. I have found it an amazingly restorative practice and have more recently enjoyed doing the Relax, Release and Return practice during my '5 Minute Relax Shavasana'.

I am strongly encouraging you, and myself too, to start and maintain this simple, effective practice. Taking time out to relax and restore is essential for our well being and for others too. I know I am no use to anyone if I am stressed out or really out of sorts. Stress is exhausting and causes so many mental and physical problems. Taking time to relax is vital, especially given the many distractions and the hectic nature of our lives. Incorporating this simple 5 minute break into each day and practicing the 3 R's during the day whenever you remember will give your body and mind a well eared POM break. 

So how do we do our '5 Minute RELAX Shavasana?

1.  Find a comfy spot to lie down.
     A comfy chair can sub in if somewhere to lie is not available. 

2.  Pop an eye pillow over your eyes, or close them.

3.  RELAX THE BODY
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ou can do a progressive relaxation starting with letting go of the muscles in the feet and heading up the body ending with the face and head.

4.  RELEASE THE THOUGHTS
If you are like me, all sorts of thoughts will pop into the mind. Try to see them like passing clouds - that pop into the mind, last for awhile and pass on through. That is the RELEASE  bit.  We don't need to think about them, we simply notice, relax and release them with joyful indifference, like watching a passing parade, leaving our peace undisturbed. 

5.  RETURN TO THE BREATH 
Kindly bring the mind back to the breath when it wanders off. Notice the sensation of breath at the nostrils or the rise and fall of the chest - whatever feels right for you. When you  notice the mind has drifted away from the sensation of breath with a thought, sensation or feeling.....
  • Be happy you have noticed - no beating up!!
  • Relax 
  • Release the thoughts
  • Kindly return to the sensation of breathe 
6.  REPEAT STEPS 3 - 5 OVER AND OVER FOR 5 MINUTES 
 
SOME TIPS
  • You may want to set a timer so you are not concerned about the time. Do not to use your phone as this will be a distraction. A kitchen timer works well. 
  • Place your phone on silent and in another room so you are not distracted.  
  • When your mind strays from the breath, which it will, be a kind encouraging friend who returns it to the breath, not a harsh critical task master. I am much more receptive to a kind encouraging approach rather than a harsh critical one. Being aware of the unhelpful critical inner voice and replacing it with a kind one is always helpful.  Practicing positive self talk in mediation is very helpful in creating this helpful habit.  
So why not give it a go, you have nothing to lose except maybe some stress. Other will appreciate a more relaxed you too.

If you find it tricky to find 5 minutes and a place to do this in a busy working day maybe an after work or evening practice might work. Or a lie or sit in a park during lunchtime might work too.  

I have been enjoying using my POM lavender eye pillow for my '5 Minute RELAX Shavasana. I have been making these eye pillows for some time now and use them in my yoga classes, as you can see pictured above. As the eye pillows can't be washed they are enclosed in a WDC hand woven washable pillow case.  They come with instructions, and a POM bookmark and are available here. So you may want to gift yourself or someone you know an opportunity to relax each and every day. 
  
Have a great fortnight - I look forward to connecting with you soon 

Kind Regards 
Maree xx

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