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Gratitude is a Super Power!

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I am grateful to be looking at gratitude yet again this blog!
Gratitude is an awesome superpower. I read recently that one of the most powerful statements you can make, feel or think is ‘thank you’. Thank you to others and yourself too.
 
It is so helpful to remember to be thankful to all those people in our lives who have been motherly, kind and caring toward us, including of course our own maternal mothers, to whom we owe so much, including our lives. Remembering to be thankful to friends, family and strangers too for the kindness they show us in all sorts of ways is powerful to promote our happiness and peace of mind. We'll talk more about gratitude for mothering kindness next blog, as it will be Mother's Day weekend. I'll be on board travelling from Canberra to Sydney!
 
It is also great to be thankful to others who give us the opportunity to be kind to them. This includes, friends, family, pets, strangers and of course our children or anyone we care for.

It's great to remember to tune into our wise selves to be kind and thankful to ourselves too. Seeing ourselves be a positive force in the world, being kind and grateful creates a happy perception. We can reinforce this goodness by being thankful to ourselves. We can be grateful to ourselves for doing our best to be a kind, positive force in the world. Remembering also to forgive ourselves and others for all those so called ‘mistakes’, more helpfully known as learning opportunities. 
 
The opportunities to extend kindness do not always come in the ways we expect and sometimes these kind acts are received without thanks. I find it helpful to thank myself, especially during those times like when I have spent a lot of time and effort doing something like making a family meal which is received with 'I don't like this!' Resting in my intention to have prepared a healthy meal and thanking myself helps to prevent resentment. A space I  have known very well. 

Sometimes extending kindness, especially as parents, can be in the form of a strong boundary like ‘please, don’t speak to me like that’, or ‘no, you can’t do that’. Such Kindness always has the intention to protect others from harm.

I can remember the need for such a strong kind boundary many years ago when I needed to enforce the ‘no sleeping with phone rule’ with my then thirteen-year-old. As I was saying goodnight to them, I discovered the phone under their bedclothes. I removed the phone and there was much subsequent protesting.  I needed to check in with my wise self to remember that my intention was to prevent harm and for them to get a good night’s sleep. I was then able to thank myself for being courageously kind, as the protests continued.  
 
More about gratitude and its awesome benefits next blog.
With love, appreciation and very best well wishes to us all 


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​Creating a Great First Impression: Eye Contact, how to make it.

3/13/2016

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In last week’s blog ‘Creating a Great First Impression: Getting Past,  How are you? we explored some tips to help with connecting with others in social situations.  Here, in this week's blog  are some more things you may want to consider.  
 
The Changing nature of our relationships
It is so easy and tempting to slap a label on someone we meet and write them off without a chance.  We often sum them up in the first few seconds, even before they have uttered a word.  A psychologist friend told me in my first job 30 years ago that when we ASSUME it makes an ass of you and me.  So true, how often I have foolishly labeled potential friend, uninteresting person or foe and made an ass of me and them.     
 
However when we think about it our relationships with others are continually changing.  Some of our friends today were once neutral people we did not know well or maybe even our enemies previously.  Someone I admire greatly who is now a good friend was once someone I had little time for.  Given this changing nature of our relationships it is helpful to try to treat all people we meet equally and to do our best to be friendly and have a non-judgmental curiosity rather than judging, labeling and assuming.  As we explored last week we can start the process of getting to know someone by doing our best to be friendly and have that non-judgmental curiosity by revealing more than ‘good' when we are asked how we are.  Another way to connect is understand how to use eye contact in a helpful way. 
 
Creating a Great First Impression 
Tip 2.  Eye Contact, how to make it
We all know the importance of eye contact and how nice it is to have that contact with others.  Recently I was interested to read about the ‘rules of eye contact’.  I am sorry I cannot give credit to the source because I can't recall it.  I have not understood how to feel comfortable with eye contact and I am thankful for this information, which has freed me up to be comfortable with this beautiful way to connect to others.  The rules are
  • When you are the listener never break eye contact with the person who is speaking (blink, relax, smile etc. of course - adding this because I tend to take rules way too seriously sometimes J)
This really helps the other person know you are engaged and interested. However you do not need to be staring and listening intensely the whole time.  Conversation is a two way sharing, as we will discuss next week. So as the listener make eye contact, be curious without judgment and see where things go. 
  • When you are the speaker it is OK to break eye contact.  In fact it is very helpful to do so to.  A glance away often gives us the space necessary to construct what we want to say next
I have found these rules very helpful as I had many misunderstandings about eye contact and often felt uncomfortable and am sure made others uneasy too.  Give it a go and see what you think, you may find it helpful too. 

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