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Gratitude is a Super Power!

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I am grateful to be looking at gratitude yet again this blog!
Gratitude is an awesome superpower. I read recently that one of the most powerful statements you can make, feel or think is ‘thank you’. Thank you to others and yourself too.
 
It is so helpful to remember to be thankful to all those people in our lives who have been motherly, kind and caring toward us, including of course our own maternal mothers, to whom we owe so much, including our lives. Remembering to be thankful to friends, family and strangers too for the kindness they show us in all sorts of ways is powerful to promote our happiness and peace of mind. We'll talk more about gratitude for mothering kindness next blog, as it will be Mother's Day weekend. I'll be on board travelling from Canberra to Sydney!
 
It is also great to be thankful to others who give us the opportunity to be kind to them. This includes, friends, family, pets, strangers and of course our children or anyone we care for.

It's great to remember to tune into our wise selves to be kind and thankful to ourselves too. Seeing ourselves be a positive force in the world, being kind and grateful creates a happy perception. We can reinforce this goodness by being thankful to ourselves. We can be grateful to ourselves for doing our best to be a kind, positive force in the world. Remembering also to forgive ourselves and others for all those so called ‘mistakes’, more helpfully known as learning opportunities. 
 
The opportunities to extend kindness do not always come in the ways we expect and sometimes these kind acts are received without thanks. I find it helpful to thank myself, especially during those times like when I have spent a lot of time and effort doing something like making a family meal which is received with 'I don't like this!' Resting in my intention to have prepared a healthy meal and thanking myself helps to prevent resentment. A space I  have known very well. 

Sometimes extending kindness, especially as parents, can be in the form of a strong boundary like ‘please, don’t speak to me like that’, or ‘no, you can’t do that’. Such Kindness always has the intention to protect others from harm.

I can remember the need for such a strong kind boundary many years ago when I needed to enforce the ‘no sleeping with phone rule’ with my then thirteen-year-old. As I was saying goodnight to them, I discovered the phone under their bedclothes. I removed the phone and there was much subsequent protesting.  I needed to check in with my wise self to remember that my intention was to prevent harm and for them to get a good night’s sleep. I was then able to thank myself for being courageously kind, as the protests continued.  
 
More about gratitude and its awesome benefits next blog.
With love, appreciation and very best well wishes to us all 


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Feeling Flat! What to do with that?

8/23/2019

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I have been reminded of lots of helpful things this past fortnight. I realise I often repeat myself as it helps me to remember things that assist me in riding the ups and downs of life with more peace and joy. I trust they may be of benefit to you too.

As we have discussed emotions arise and sometimes it is tricky to deal with them, especially the unwanted ones! I have been feeling a little flat of late and also have had a bit of a confidence block regarding posting this blog. I have been wondering what to do with that! I wrote myself a note of encouragement, which read 

Good Morning .....
I trust you will be feeling brighter soon
Remember just like the weather feelings like sad and lacking confidence come and go
You will not always feel this way and you have some wonderful tools to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life 
Remember to do your best to avoid doing either of 2 unhelpful things.....
1.  Don't attach to the feeling with a whole worry, catastrophe story  
2.  Don't try to push the feelings away
Instead ....... 

Accept the feeling (embrace it)  be curious, breath and allow the feelings to pass by (again and again if necessary)
And then you will be free to do something wise, like .....
  • Do you best to be of benefit to others - in your job and interactions with others 
  • Your best to benefit others also includes balanced self care of you too - so you can be of benefit to others. Balanced self care includes getting enough rest, eating well and being a kind and encouraging friend to yourself with your self - talk 
And a couple more thoughts.....
  • As Eckhart Tolle reminds us 'Whatever you fight you strengthen, and what you resist, persist and as Carl Jung  says 'What you resist persists. What you embrace dissolves.
I like the word embrace - it implies to me a kind acceptance of the feeling, which allows for a letting go!

I also like the word encourage. I recently read, encourage can mean to 'give courage! So we can give others and ourselves courage by using kind, encouraging words. As this quote from Theologians says 'Encourage one another and build each other up.'And yourself too!

A sense of Curiosity and wonder is so helpful  When we bring a sense of wonder or curiosity to what is occurring with thoughts and feelings we open up to letting them pass rather than to attach to them, push them away or be judgmental or unkind.

I arrived at the Mission on Friday and the chef's daughter, Disney, was wearing a nutcracker dress for dress up day at school. On the dress it read 'Curious and Brilliant'. What a lovely reminder!
​As I have often repeated, I truly believe the true cause of our own peace and contentment lies in less worry and concern about ourselves and more concern about how we can be of benefit to others.

And as I reminded myself it is important to remember to be kind to you too and take care of yourself too so you can be of benefit to others. If we run ourselves into the ground with work, worry and stress we are not much good to others or ourselves! So that balanced self care.

Sometimes it can be more than 'feeling a bit flat' and maybe seeking the support of someone else is what is needed  Reaching out to others, including friends, family or professionals for support  help is important Not only does it provide an opportunity to feel better, it also provides and opportunity for them to help! A win, win!

So what did I do with 'feeling flat' and a confidence block regarding sending this blog? What is the best way to overcome feeling flat, and my confidence block?
  1. Accept the feelings of 'flat' and 'hesitantly' regarding this blog, with curiosity and embrace, Hmmm I wonder what is going on?
  2. Breathe, and let it pass and
  3. Encouraged myself to do my best to do what I need to do to benefit others. So I need to be that kind and encouraging friend to myself and do my best to .....
  • Prepare for teaching my yoga class! 
  • Hit SEND on this blog
  • And TRUST and let go of fear and worry about me 
In appreciation for you all. Have a great fortnight! 
 
Maree xx

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